Debby Downer?

My Life Coach

I found myself in one of those "blah blah blah" kind of moods this weekend where I was questioning every decision I have made in the past year.  In general I thought I was fine, that I would get over it quickly.  I told myself that everyone feels this way from time to time...right? Then it was Saturday night, I knocked back a few cocktails with dear friends, and well, I became Miss Debby Downer! Let me set the scene for you...I was with a great group of friends which included my lovely older brother.  We were at a brewery for Sausage Fest, yes you read that correctly Sausage Fest, listening to the stylings of Portugal, The Man and Cold War Kids, all around it was a super fun time!  My brother is not just one of the friends for me, he is the guy I turn to for advice and general life guidence (let's just say he has his ish together!).  I was happy to be there and the music was great, but I just couldn't get out of my own head.  When I finally had a nice "buzz" going on I not-so-casually cornered my brother to began to gripe.  Now I didn't just say, "hey Ty there are somethings bothering me," no, I staight up went crazy! I was questioning my career, relationships, future, past, present, and list goes on.  My oh so patient brother listened to me lovingly, offered some sound feedback, and quickly go the party started again!  The next day he promptly text to check on me and my lackluster mood.  He once again offered me very poignant advice that got me thinking.  Do I actually feel this way? Could I really be that unhappy?  The answer is simple - NO - I love what I have going on, so what do I do about this attitude I have developed? Well, my sage brother advised me to only worry about the things in life that I can control, don't focus on the things in life that I don't have...and so on. So yes, this is what I am going to do.  I made a Positivity Pact with myself! Here are my 5 goals:

1. Don't listen to Bon Iver in the morning (or right before bed)
2. Find one great thing about your day to focus on and share it with someone
3. Say YES more often
4. Work out (this always helps)
5. Call up an older friend to get together

Here goes nothing....YAY BEING POSITIVE!